mermaid or whale?

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "

(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn) and I grabbed this article from

Delphine Fieberg facebook account :)

boundaries.

it's good to have boundaries untuk setiap hal yang lu lakuin. dan gue sangat bangga sama diri gue sendiri karna udah ngelewatin masa abg labil dengan batasan-batasan yang jelas. beruntung gue punya orang tua yang selalu ingetin gue untuk gak wasting time wasting money by doing stupid things. sebenernya udah sejak lama gue pengen banget nulis tentang ini. tapi nggak pernah kesampean, now I'm in the good mood to write things like this.

jadi gini ceritanya, temennya temen gue baru aja ada yang meninggal karna obat-obat terlarang. dan gue diceritain gimana dia berjuang ngelawan sakitnya di hari-hari terakhir sebelum dia meninggal. this kind of story makes me think how lucky I am today :) kalo aja, dulu gue terjerumus hal-hal yang nggak baik, mungkin gue akan bernasib sama dengan orang tadi.

gue selalu punya batasan atau limit di setiap hal yang gue lakuin. seperti gue gak akan merokok, gue gak akan minum-minuman keras, dan pergi clubbing. gue punya alesan kuat kenapa gue gak akan melakukan hal-hal yang udah gue sebutkan tadi. mungkin banyak yang nganggep gue cupu karena gak punya masa remaja yang nakal dan gaul. tapi, gue bangga sama komitmen gue ini. menurut gue, mencari jati diri pas remaja nggak selalu dengan cara menunjukan seberapa eksis dan nakalnya lu di dunia luar. well, thats my opinion.

ntah uda berapa banyak temen yang nyodorin rokok depan mulut gue, tapi gue gak pernah tertarik sedikitpun buat nyoba. karena gue peduli sama kesehatan, gue gak mau terkapar 10 tahun dari sekarang karena punya masalah paru-paru,jantung atau pembuluh darah, or worse. kedua,gue pengen punya rahim yang sehat untuk tempat anak-anak gue nanti di masa depan. karna merokok sangat nggak baik untuk organ kewanitaan kita. jadi, selain sayang diri sendiri, sayang juga sama calon anak kita. ketiga, gue gak suka bau asep nempel di rambut, baju dan kulit gue. berasa kayak abang-abang,hehehe.

clubbing. alesan terbesar gue gak suka clubbing karna gue gak suka lagu-lagu yang diputerin di club. terlalu fancy dan overbeat. gue suka lagu yang tenang dengan lirik-lirik yang bagus. duduk-duduk ngobrol sama orang-orang terdekat di cafe/restoran sambil dengerin live music yang bisa kita nyanyiin lagunya adalah hal yang lebih menyenangkan. dan kedua, disitu tempat yang padet dan banyak asep. ketiga, gue pasti akan sangat nggak nyaman berada di dalam situ.

kalo alesan kenapa gue nggak minum adalah karena gue sangat suka wine sebenernya. tapi, gue mau saat gue minum wine gue dalam mood terbaik dan dalam keadaan yang sangat spesial. kalo sehari-harinya aja gue udah sering minum alkohol, nggak ada yang spesial lagi saat gue minum itu di waktu yang spesial, iya kan? dan soal ngobat, gue sangat tidak berniat nyentuhnya karena gue selalu inget omongan nyokap "sesuatu yang sangat enak di awal, selalu berdampak buruk di akhir. jangan pernah nyesel di akhir." thanks mom, that was the best advice,by far :)

sekali lagi, ini opini gue kenapa gue punya batesan-batesan atas hal yang gue lakuin. nggak semua orang berpikiran yang sama kayak gue, dan gue juga sangat menghargai pemikiran orang-orang lain. no offense buat yang sering clubbing,minum dan ngerokok. that's your choice and I appreciate it. tapi ada baiknya, kita harus punya limit atas semua hal. karena kita uda dewasa dan harus tau resiko dari segala hal yang kita lakuin. don't ruin your life by doing things that actually you dont feel comfortable doing it, okay :) be responsible to your body and your life guys!

sela.

these are happiness according to me.

Lessons in Life

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's okay to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's okay to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over-prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don't ask, you don't get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

I want to hug you.

terakhir ngecek tanggal, sekitar 22 September. itu berarti waktu udah nggak jalan lagi, tapi lari sprint, atau barangkali nempel di roket. sadar atau enggak udah mau masuk penghujung 2011 lagi. begitu banyak hari-hari yang uda kebuang, dan begitu banyak 2011's new year resolutions yang cuma jadi angan-angan belaka. ya kan?

dan yaampun gue baru sadar gue nulis blog lagi loh. setelah sekian lama cuma masuk-masukin video, foto, atau quotes. maaf atas kevakumannya selama ini. salahin kuliah yang ngerampas hampir 80% hidup gue sekarang, bahkan weekend aja tetep tidur cuma 3 jam. kasian yah..tapi abis ini akan nyoba nulis blog lagi secara rutin, mungkin sebulan sekali *apanya yang rutin ya?*

oke kembali ke hidup saya.

24 Agustus kemarin. baru aja 2 tahunan sama Chandra. kita nggak pernah jadiin setiap hari jadi itu spesial dan sama-sama santai soal ini. we always keep it simple. Chandra bawain kue kecil dengan angka 2 di atasnya, dan niup bareng-bareng di mobil sambil make a wish dan tukeran kado kecil-kecilan. dilanjutin makan malem kayak hari-hari biasa. nggak ada yang sangat spesial hari itu, semuanya sama spesialnya dengan 730 hari yang udah dilaluin bareng :)


sempet pergi ke Eropa bareng keluarga di libur lebaran kemarin. akhirnya pergi sekeluarga juga karena udah direncanain dari beberapa tahun lalu, tapi selalu gagal karena jadwal libur nggak pernah sama. akhirnya dengan sedikit kompromi untuk bolos dan nyicil banyak tugas, lebaran kemarin bisa pergi ke Eropa bareng keluarga. seneng banget dan pengen balik lagi..banget


oh iya kalo sempet, cek band yang ini ya. band folk dari indonesia namanya Backwood Sun, kalo uda denger lagunya pasti nggak nyangka ini band dari Indonesia. lagunya mirip fleet foxes dan bisa dibeli di iTunes store, atau di bawah label UK ini di bawah ini :

click me :)

oke deh uda jam 4:50 pagi belom tidur, kantong mata uda makin shiny. pamit dulu guys, see you in the next post! adios!

DIRGAHAYU TANAH AIRKU, INDONESIA!

my mom has made me laugh, wiped my tears, hugged me tight, saved my life, watched me succeed, seen me fail, cheered me on, kept me going strong, put up with my mood swings, has said everything will be alright when things get tough, keeps me sane. My mom is a promise from God that I'll have a friend forever :) I love you and always have.